Comments on: 4 Things Obstetricians Do That Drive Me Crazy

By: fj198602

fj198602 — Thu, 14 Jan 2010 03:15:20 +0000

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By: Fatima

Fatima — Sat, 09 Jan 2010 15:51:07 +0000

My first birth was supposed to be a home birth, didnt dialate with hard labor at 15 hrs+ went to hospital, they gave me something that caused allergic reation, thus an emergency c-section. 6 years later my due dte for second baby is June 12th. Becasue I have state insurance I’m working with an OB close to my home. HAving a OB now and having a midwife last time is way different. Night and day. My OB’s, as I have seen all three in the practice, that they will allow a trial of labor only if I go into labor on the 12th of June, and that if I go over 40 weeks, it will be a repeat c-section. I don’t like that I’m feeling like I am being forced to have a repeat CS. My daughter was 41 weeks, and what if this baby is ready to come exactly at 40 weeks. I don’t see how they can make me if I stay at home an refuse to be cut open. I want to attempt a VBAC but how could I if I go over 40 weeks? I almost was on the brink of death fromthe 1st CS, was in the hospital for 6 days with a fever of 103, 104, and a bad cough during that winter that severly hurt the area that was stiched. If anyone knows why I have to be cut open at 40 weeks please let me knwo as I have not found any medical reason for this.

By: tanyetta

tanyetta — Thu, 31 Dec 2009 04:26:39 +0000

The one thing that I received with all of my OB’s were the gift of just sitting and listening to me. I would have to say if a doctor doesn’t LISTEN then, that is a HUGE NO in my book.

I read somewhere that a doctor will interrupt a patient after 20 seconds of the patient starting to speak. SCANDAL!!!

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By: Tobster

Tobster — Sun, 27 Dec 2009 22:40:59 +0000

My OB was pretty good, no major complaints, but the one thing that bugged me was that everyone in the practice assumed I’d end up with a c-section since I’m over 40. (I didn’t). I told them if that ended up being what was best I was okay with it, but a couple even suggested I go ahead and schedule a PLANNED c-section. For no reason whatsoever!

By: Carrington

Carrington — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 14:49:10 +0000

Oh, I agree with your list! Although I never had an OB- but for these very reasons :). I think its outrageous that they guess birth weight, and then induce women a week or two ahead of time because the “baby is getting too big”. What woman is going to argue with that? It puts so much fear into the mother (which is their plan to stay in control). I’m trying to tell this to a friend that was just told she is going to have to be induced two weeks before her due date because the baby is getting to big (she is due next month), and the truth is- early inductions, and unnecessary interventions lead to unnecessary c-sections, and all the risks and complications that go into that. The c-section rate is 35% in America, and the death rate for mothers is higher (I think maybe the highest) in 1st world countries. I would add to your list that OB’s aren’t about informed consent, and it actually annoys them- they would rather you take their advice, and be quiet, and do as they say. The other thing I would add to your list is that your midwife is personal- your appointments are long as they get to know you, and what you are like. Thus making them a better advocate. My midwife is a great friend now, as she asks me about my life, and what is stressing me. She also is there through the whole process of labor and delivery with me, and doesn’t just walk into “check” me, leave, and only come back when I’m ready to push. A midwife is there for you, supporting you, (literally massaging perineal the whole time), and answering all your questions as to what is happening to your body, calming your fears. It’s night and day difference the amount of care you receive with a midwife vs an OB

By: Musings of a Housewife

Musings of a Housewife — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 02:39:54 +0000

I’ll add to your OB list.

5) Break your water out of routine habit when it is not necessary and probably actually contributed to complications in childbirth that resulted in horrific recovery.

I had an OB with #1 and a midwife with #2 and #3. I love, loved LOVED the midwife experience. I, too, felt like the whole experience was much more “medical” with #1 and more natural and nurturing with #2 and #3.

I still had epidurals with all 3 (my midwives’ philosophy was that the mother-to-be calls the shots, and so if you want an epi, you can have it. If you want to go natural, they will help you do that.) I’m all about the epidural.

My midwife practiced out of her home which was so much more pleasant than going to a doctor’s office.

By: Alycia

Alycia — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 02:12:07 +0000

I agree with all of those! I switched from an OB to a CNM midway through my pregnancy and couldn’t have been happier. And I had a pretty decent OB, which frightens me about who else is out there lol.

I will add this:

OBs are test happy. He wanted me to do every genetic test out there and didn’t make it seem like an option. My midwife only offered one test and they didn’t seem to suggest it too much.

Obs are also procedure happy. Delayed cord cutting? No episiotomies? No monitors? Not happening.

I still delivered in a hospital but loved my midwives and the support they offered. It was more like a friend was with me more than a doctor.

By: Csixberry

Csixberry — Thu, 24 Dec 2009 00:41:02 +0000

I understand what you mean by guessing weight. My office has 3 midwives, which people usually see unless they are high risk, they also do 80% of deliveries. Then they have 3 doctors for the high risk pregnancies. Well I am measuring 42 when I am 33 weeks along so they did a US to find out how big the baby was and it seems that he is estimated at 5 pounds and 6 ounces. Then she said I have 30(I don’t know the unit they measure the amniotic fluid with) of amniotic fluid and that is probably why I feel so big. Anyway the midwife said she wanted to have the doctor see me because they would want me to talk to a doctor anyway. So I saw a doctor and he was saying how the baby was pretty big for the week I am at and they were going to schedule another US at my next appointment to see how big the baby is then. He said we might have to talk about a c-section because his shoulders might get stuck. When with my second child they induced me because they thought she might be big but she only turned out to be 7 pounds 15 ounces. So I know that these estimations are just that and are nowhere near being factual.

By: Krista

Krista — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 18:40:47 +0000

Gosh, after reading all these comments it seems that doctors and nurses need to take a course in human relations. Sheesh!
I went with a family practice clinic for my first baby, I didn’t really have a choice since I was on state insurance. I also didn’t meet the doctor who actually delivered until delivery day since there were 8 doctors who rotated. However, he turned out to be fabulous for me, not pushy at all.
My pre-natal appointments were a nightmare though. The nurse practitioner I saw for the first 7 months actually accused me of being the one to “harm” my baby when I wondered aloud if all the ultrasounds I’d had were going to be okay. Then, the other female doctor (who was my age with no kid) basically started talking about induction before I was 40 weeks “if” I were to go past 41 weeks. She had no idea what would happen – I actually went into labor on my due date – but she scared me for no reason.
For all of these reasons plus the fact that I felt like I had NO control in the hospital I am going with a local midwives clinic this time around and having my baby at their birthing center. I must say that so far they have been absolutely fabulous and having friends give birth there (and at home with them) makes me so much more comfortable! Now I just hope I can survive without the drugs… :)

By: Holly at Tropic of Mom

Holly at Tropic of Mom — Wed, 23 Dec 2009 06:50:19 +0000

I don’t like the undressing bit either. I even went in one time for mastitis, and the nurse told me to take off all my clothes! Like my lower half needed to be exposed for that!