I want my kids to be…HEALTHY

playing doctor I want my kids to be...HEALTHYI don’t like doctors,” my 3-year-old says that quite often.

But doctors help people,” I say.

She seems unimpressed.

My baby sister doesn’t like doctors either,” she announces, confidently…undoubtedly remembering our last trip to the pediatrician.

Even so, she has a little doctor’s kit that she plays with almost every day. She examines Minnie Mouse and her little toy sheep and her baby sister. She checks blood pressure and heart rates and reflexes. She give shots and performs surgery and administers medicine.

The interesting thing about the whole charade is that she very, very rarely goes to the doctor herself. By and large, our family is super healthy, for which I am exceedingly grateful.

One of my dreams for my kids is that they stay healthy. I want them to be strongenergeticthrivingin the pink of health.

I do realize, of course, that “health” isn’t always inside our control. There are a lot of diseases and illnesses and accidents that can’t be prevented or cured. Sometimes things happen and that’s life.

That said, there are a lot of things we CAN do to keep our bodies and our minds active and alert. The top five that come to mind are: (1) Exercise. (2) Eat nutritious, non-processed, raw foods. (3) Drink water. (4) Reduce stress. (5) Laugh and Love.

I know that my girls pick up on how I treat my body, even now…and that keeps me striving. I’m far from perfect though. I know I need to drink more water. I should run more consistently. Etc. Etc.

I need to keep my health front and center on my priority list – for my girls, my husband, my future.

I have another motivating factor besides all of that too: Shhhh…don’t tell my girls this…but…I don’t really like going to the doctor either.

YOUR TURN: How do you model a healthy lifestyle for your kids?

I want my kids to be…ENTREPRENEURIAL

Let’s do that, okay?” is one of my 3-year-old’s favorite phrases.

washing the car I want my kids to be...ENTREPRENEURIALShe comes up with grand dreams and schemes on a daily basis – some realistic, some not. And then says that little catch phrase.

She’ll say, “Let’s print out pictures and make grandparent cards. Let’s do that, okay?

And…”Let’s wash the cars in the front yard. Let’s do that, okay?

And…”Let’s go to Phoenix and Washington and Oregon and Disneyland and California tomorrow. Let’s do that, okay?

Her words are breathless and energy-filled and ready for action.

kid entrepreneur I want my kids to be...ENTREPRENEURIALI love the way that she thinks…and I never want her to lose that. I want my kids to be innovative and creative - to be risk-takers and hard-workers and inventors.

I’m not sure if my kids will end up being 9-to-5ers in some big corporation or not (and, if so, that’s fine by me…), but – in my heart of hearts – I secretly kind of hope not. I want them to have the skills and resources to be able to start their own businesses, create their own hours, and bring their brilliance to the world.

Because I want to teach those things…I strive to model them. I think up ways to grow my business. I work hard and stay up late…sometimes too late. I write down ideas in my notepad.

And…whenever my 3-year-old says, “Let’s do that, okay?” —> I try to almost always say, “Okay.”

YOUR TURN: How do you teach your children about entrepreneurship and hard work?

I want my kids to be…HAPPY

We are sitting at the kitchen table, eating turkey and cheese sandwiches on whole wheat bread…and crunching on plump, red grapes.

Grapes make me smile,” my 3-year-old suddenly announces quite matter-of-factly. And then she grins.

I laugh and look over at Tim, who is loading the dishwasher, to make sure that he heard it…and then I laugh some more. A happy, soulful kind of laugh. Because it is so very good to live here.

playing in the backyard I want my kids to be...HAPPYYou see, there are a lot of things that make us smile in our house. Eating noodles and ice cream and blueberries (not necessarily together, mind you). Riding bicycles. Making sticker cards and peanut butter balls. Reading books. Playing in the sandbox. Watching the rain pour down. Basking in the sun.

playing in the sandbox1 I want my kids to be...HAPPYWhen I say that I want my girls to be happy, I mean that I want them to be contentoptimisticgrateful - able to see all the good in themselves and in the world. Some might prefer to call it joy, but I don’t want to get caught up in semantics.

Stop for a minute and think about this. Is there anyone in your life that radiates peace and positivity, even in the midst of hardships? It’s not a fake cheerfulness though or an obnoxious exuberance. It’s this genuine light that just emanates from their soul…and wraps around everyone that they meet. I know people like that…and I want that for my kids.

I’m hoping that they choose happiness – today and every day. (Happiness is a choice, after all).

P.S. I’m working on this too, by the way. I’m striving to wake up every morning with the thought that something wonderful is about to happen…

YOUR TURN: How do you teach your children how to be happy/content?

Themed Weekend: I Want My Kids To Be…

Recently, I wrote down a list of qualities that I would like to nurture in my children. I wrote them down because I want them to be right where I can see them.

It’s so easy to just let the days pass me by – to think, “Oh, I’ll work on that tomorrow” or “Next week, I will focus on such-and-such…” But, in my heart of hearts, I want to be more INTENTIONAL than that.

I am 100% convinced that these early years matter deeply. Parenting from birth to age 5 is a sobering and significant task. So much of what I do…of WHO I AM…today will shape who my children are tomorrow.

I’m certainly not perfect. In fact, that’s the whole point of this. I am confident that the most crucial thing that I can do to help my children become compassionate and productive adults is…to work on my own character.

Have you ever noticed that your children are at their very best when YOU are patient, positive, selfless, and merciful? Yeah, me too.

This weekend is not about how I can MAKE my kids become better. It’s about changing myself so I can give them all of the resources that they need to go out and change the world for good.

baby in backyard Themed Weekend: I Want My Kids To Be... preschooler in the backyard Themed Weekend: I Want My Kids To Be...

YOUR TURN: What qualities would you like to nurture in your children?

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As posts are published, I will add them to this post so that you can have a comprehensive spot to see my entire round-up.

Higher

swinging high HigherPush me higher,” she screams, her voice shaking with joy and anticipation.

Tim pulls back and lets her go toward the skies like a rubber band. She laughs, unfettered – eyes sparkling, lips parted: “HIGHER! HIGHER!

That IS high,” he protests.

That’s NOT HIGH,” she shouts back, indignantly.

The higher she is, the happier she is…yet it’s still not quite high enough.

I sit on the park bench, holding her baby sister, watching the exchange with a slight smile on my face.

As I watch, I think of this little swing ride as a metaphor. I catch my breath and pray quietly, “Help her to dream big, to reach high…to always, always say, ‘That’s NOT HIGH’ when people tell her that her dreams are too wide and deep.

And then Shel Silverstein’s famous poem whispers across my mind -

Listen to the MUSTN’TS, child.
Listen to the DON’TS.
Listen to the SHOULDN’TS.
The IMPOSSIBLES, the WON’TS.
Listen to the NEVER HAVES.
Then listen close to me -
Anything can happen, child.
ANYTHING can be.

Wordless Wednesday: Stand By Me

baby standing with support Wordless Wednesday: Stand By Me

* 10 months old

Tuesday Tours: What’s Happening on the Web

j02933381 Tuesday Tours: Whats Happening on the WebWelcome to “Tuesday Tours: What’s Happening on the Web” where I serve as your tour guide and showcase the best contests, freebies, deals, and reads for moms on the web…all in one convenient location.

Contests

Becca of Our Crazy Boys is celebrating her 1st “Blog Birthday” by hosting a scavenger hunt giveaway. The prize? A $50 gift card to anywhere. Enter by Feb. 3.

Enter to win a top or jeans from DownEast Basics over at Babes and Kids (I love how Tiffany included photos in her review) before Feb. 4.

Announcements

Dana just opened the MADE Shop, where she will be selling her handmade creations. Have I mentioned that I LOVE her kids clothes?

Are you in Entrepreneur who resides in California, Nevada, Arizona, New Mexico, Utah, Oklahoma or Texas? Enter the Mompreneur of the Year contest. The deadline to submit your video is February 28.

Good Reads

Gwen Bell on child abuse and “using your voice to shine a light into the darkness“: The Seeds of Anger.

From Seth {A Rock Home Companion}: On What We Want to Be When We Grow Up.

Sarah {Real Life} shares some helpful tips for blogging conference attendees: Conferences Put the “Social” in Social Media.

The Nester offers a few Simple Solutions for Everyday Issues.

From The New York Times: School Adds Weeding to Reading and Writing (1/19).

From The Washington Post: Debate on circumcision heightened as CDC evaluates surgery (1/19).

Miscellany

Want to make someone’s day? Send Mini M+Ms in the mail {Giver’s Log}.

I’d like to try this Simple Lasagna (shared by Sarah of Redhead Recipes).

Have you seen the movie Invictus? A friend gave it an excellent review.

An interesting chart from the Silicon Alley Insider: One Third Of U.S. 11-Year-Olds Have Cell Phones (1/19).

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*** If you have a contest or an announcement that you think might be a good fit for Tuesday Tours, e-mail me at stephanie@metropolitanmama.net.