Last Night in Our House

family in packing boxes Last Night in Our HouseLast night was our last night in our house.

After running errands and packing, we sat down (on our floor) to homemade pork chop, brussels sprout, green beans, and cookies – courtesy of Becca (thank you, friend – it was the most timely of gifts!).

We bathed and showered the girls, put on PJs, brushed teeth, read books…just like we have for the past four years.

Tim stayed up late boxing things up and making trips in a borrowed truck to various places. I fell asleep early (right beside my girls).

Now, it it dark and the house is quiet. I am sitting here typing at a card table, perched on a 3-legged camp chair. I’m feeling surprisingly nostalgic – looking around at my empty home, scattered belongings on the floor. This is where I rocked my babies, nursed them, stayed up through the night when they were sick, watched my toddler run across the great room, made love to my husband, and danced in the kitchen to make my girls laugh at the breakfast table.

I catch my breath (barely breathing). This isn’t a dream.

I’ve never prayed more.

thoughts (and regrets) as we leave our neighborhood

house in neighborhood thoughts (and regrets) as we leave our neighborhoodYesterday, I was thinking about our neighborhood – the community here, the culture that has developed, the things we’ve appreciated, the things we desire, and the things we would have done differently.

We know a lot of our neighbors. We’re not the garage-up, garage-down kind of people. We spend a lot of time in our front yard. We walk through the streets every day, especially in the early evenings before or after dinner.

Even so, I wish we would have been even more intentional about forming relationships from day one. I would have hosted a meet-and-greet at our house or at a park when we moved in. I would have invited a few moms over for scones and strawberries. I would have said, “Come on in!” when people stopped by to chat.

snowcones from the ice cream truck thoughts (and regrets) as we leave our neighborhoodIt’s funny how we often overlook the people who live the closest to us. We tend to make friends at church, at work, at school…and we’re always driving places. Here. There. Everywhere.

And yet, how cool would it be if we were strongly interconnected with the people right next door and down our street? Imagine the beauty of that scenario.

Recently, we had a big group of people (+ kids) in front of our house. A neighbor pulled his car over and said admiringly, “you guys are always in your driveway!” When he said that, I smiled and realized it’s true.

rainbow snow cone thoughts (and regrets) as we leave our neighborhoodEven so, I feel like I could have done so much more. I could have been better.

Next time around, I will BE a friend right from the get-go. I will say, “Would you like to come over for dinner on Tuesday?” instead of just smiling shyly at the other family on their evening walk with a stroller and dog. I will drop by a loaf of bread when the woman five houses down has a baby. I will write down names so that I will remember them. If I forget to do that (or if I lose the paper I wrote the names down on), I will ask a second time (or third time) without being embarrassed.

That is my pledge.

Do you know your neighbors? Are you friends with your neighbors? How have you created a culture of friendship and trust on your street?

wearing my heart on my screen

drawing in heart pants wearing my heart on my screenSometimes I wish I could open up my heart and just lay it out right here on the screen.

Even with a million disclaimers, it’s hard to say things exactly right.

There are lots of issues I am passionate about (birth, breastfeeding, babywearing, education, adoption, philanthropy, real foods, good books), but I care more about you than about any issue. How do I convey that?

I want to express the benefits of breastfeeding, without making you feel bad if you didn’t.

I want to talk about whole foods, while still conveying that I would share a frozen pizza with your family in a heartbeat.

I know that you have a story. You have reasons. You are still learning and growing. So am I (believe me – SO AM I). You have things to teach me. And I have things to share with you.

I hope someday we have an opportunity to meet in-person. When we do, you’ll see that…

  • hello and welcome to our house wearing my heart on my screenI’m not shy, but I’m also not all-sanguine.
  • I tend to think before I speak.
  • As a result, I often think of the perfect thing to say…after a conversation has ended.
  • I usually have a baby on my hip or a preschooler tugging on my hand.
  • I refuse to gossip.
  • But I like to compliment people behind their backs.
  • I smile frequently.
  • I’m casual – in dress and personality.
  • I’d much rather hang out with you at the park or on one of our front porches…
  • than be at a big party with loud music and high heels.
  • I like to ask questions (and listen to answers).
  • I love God, Tim, and my kids – fiercely.
  • I’m not perfect.

Which bloggers have you met “in real life”? Were they about the same as you expected? Do you think blogs are an accurate reflection of the people writing them?

5 things I appreciate about my mom

my parents 5 things I appreciate about my momMy mom had me when she was 33. The year was 1982. I was the third child. They didn’t know it then, but there would be three more after me too.

In no particular order, here are 5 things I appreciate about my mom:

1. She gave birth to me at home. In fact, my mom had five of her six babies at home. It was uncommon then. It is uncommon now. I really appreciate that she is a bit of a renegade like that. Now that I’ve gone through two natural childbirths myself, I am so grateful for her sacrifice. Unmedicated childbirth is hard to describe. It’s painful, powerful, and…worth it.

2. She breastfed me. Despite the fact that it was not necessarily the norm in the early 80′s, my mom breastfed me. She doesn’t remember exactly how long, but she knows she breastfed all of us for 1-2+ years (that’s 6-12 years of breastfeeding altogether!). I attribute my good health in part to her decision so many years ago.

3. She taught me to love to read. My mom always had a book in her hands. Sometimes my siblings and I would actually get upset about it, “No more reading, mom!” We went to the library every single week. I looked forward to it. I had my own library card from a young age and I checked out huge stacks of books. So did she.

me with my frog 5 things I appreciate about my mom4. She homeschooled me. I just realized when I wrote this line that I need to write a post about all of the ways homeschooling made me who I am today. For now, I’ll simply say that being schooled at home impacted me in profound and wonderful ways. It prepared me socially, emotionally, mentally, even physically…for life.

5. She (and my dad) let me go halfway around the world for a month when I was 15. When I had my 15th birthday, I requested a bunch of brochures from youth mission organizations. I announced to my parents that I wanted to go on a month-long trip with Teen Missions. They said, “yes” (if I raised the money). I did. The organization asked me to list my top 3 country preferences. Instead of choosing safe and stable places like France or England, I chose Bangladesh and Mount Kilimanjaro. I ended up in Bangladesh and Pakistan – spending long days building a school out of bamboo and tar, walking past men with machine guns (really).

It was my mom’s birthday on Wednesday. My girls and I called to wish her a happy day. Tomorrow we are meeting her for lunch at Chipotle (Did you know they sell organic chocolate milk there?).

I’m curious: Did your mom breastfeed you (and did that affect your breastfeeding decision)? Also – Can I get a shout-out from any of my readers who were homeschooled?

books + bed = a good combination

hands on cheeks books + bed = a good combinationI am tired.

Uncharacteristically tired.

Every night for the past week, as I lay beside my 1-year-old at 8:00pm and wait for her to drift off to sleep, I almost fall asleep.

Selling everything and planning a cross-country giving trek is exhausting (to say the least). We have so many things in limbo – it’s hard to keep up.

Even now, my eyelids are drooping and I’m wondering which e-mails can wait for tomorrow.

I want to tuck myself into bed w/ a big glass of water (water is my favorite drink) and a book. My library bin has the following books in it: Healthy at 100, Now Discover Your Strengths, The Hunger Games, and The Ordinary Parent’s Guide to Teaching Reading. Which one should I read first?

What book(s) are you reading? What time do you typically go to bed and wake up?

Tuesday Tours: What’s Happening on the Web

j02933381 Tuesday Tours: Whats Happening on the WebWelcome to “Tuesday Tours: What’s Happening on the Web” where I serve as your tour guide and showcase the best contests, freebies, deals, and reads for moms on the web…all in one convenient location.

Contests

Folgers Coffee invites you to enter the Home for the Holidays Essay Contest. Five grand prize winners will receive airfare, hotel accommodations, a rental car, spending money, and a digital camera. Deadline: Nov. 30.

Good Reads

Tsh reminds moms that there’s no shame in “Enjoying the Things You Love.”

Tanis reflects on her son’s Super Power.

Seattle Mama Doc writes about Understanding Childhood Immunizations.

Miscellany

I want to plan an Apple Taste Test for my family.

Did you know that you can send Amazon.com gift cards via Facebook?

Love opens up a blog post for your questions about adoption (in honor of national adoption month).

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*** If you have a contest or an announcement that you think might be a good fit for Tuesday Tours, e-mail me at stephanie@metropolitanmama.net.

We celebrated

sweetest cinderella We celebratedOn Sunday morning, our church did something different. All the kids classes were cancelled and everyone (ages 0-100) attended the service together. There was music, a laughter-filled puppet show, a children’s story, and family communion. Afterward, everyone sat outside and ate pie. Children were everywhere the whole time – babies toddling, little ones skipping through the grass, and older kids impressing their friends. It was a beautiful scene. (I should have taken a picture w/ my phone).

I liked that “family way” of doing church. I liked it when the elderly great-grandma with the crinkly smile shook my daughter’s hand. I liked seeing children bop up and down the steps to the music.

I wish we could always be together like this at church,” I told Tim afterward.

At 3 o’clock, we went to a neighborhood party. Five families. Fourteen kids under age 8. Awesome.

cutest cowgirl in the west We celebratedThe whole caravan went trick-or-treating together. Our 4-year-old dressed up as Cinderella. Our 19-month-old was the cutest cowgirl in the wild, wild west. After awhile, we sat in our driveway. Our 4-year-old yelled, “Candy! Can–deee!” to all the people passing by. She even dumped HER entire trick-or-treating bag into the bowl to hand out to other costumed kids.

In the end, we DID celebrate. We celebrated Christ. We celebrated friendship. We celebrated the fun of dressing up.

This morning, our 4-year-old woke up and said, “Why does Halloween have to be only ONE day?” I couldn’t help but smile.

We may not always celebrate October 31st exactly like this, but this year it seemed just right.

“FUN” Question: What is your absolute favorite candy?

“SERIOUS” Question: If you attend church, are children welcomed in the service or do they attend separate classes? What would be your preference?