She weaned last night.

pose by a tree She weaned last night.The last few weeks, she’s only been nursing right before bed.

Nurse me, peas,” she’d say at bedtime in the sweetest of voices.

But last night, she fell asleep while I was reading “The Indian in the Cupboard” out loud (Amazing book, by the way…we’re all enchanted by it). Tonight was the exact same scenario.

I looked at her as I left the room – long lashes, rounded cheeks, pursed lips. Still my baby, yet growing up into herself too. Like bittersweet chocolate.

Weaning has been pretty seamless this time,” I told Tim, wistfully, happily. “You said that last time too,” he said. “True,” I replied, “but this time was even more peaceful…because she’s a bit older.”

At what age did your baby wean? What was the process like for you?

The (secret) benefits of extended breastfeeding

sweetest smile 19 months The (secret) benefits of extended breastfeedingIn the mornings, when the sun begins shooting gentle rays through the cracks in the blinds, my 19-month-old begins to squirm beside me. I look at the clock and the hands tell me it’s still a little early yet. So I lay a gentle hand on her back, “Shhh…Mama’s got you.” Her body curls into mine and she latches on comfortably, relaxing into me.

We wake up at 8:00 on most mornings; 7:30 occasionally. My older daughter was the same at this age. Breastfeeding is my secret sleeping-in tactic.

It’s also my favorite defensive and offensive strategy against sickness. Breastmilk is the ultimate medicine for every ailment. I’ve never once taken my youngest to the doctor for being ill [that milk is magic, I'm telling you].

With my older daughter, I felt a little uncomfortable that she was still nursing after age 1. This time around, I feel confident in our decision. Not in an “I’m-going-to-talk-about-it-a-lot” way. Most people don’t even know she’s still nursing, actually. It’s just a quiet confidence in knowing that this is what is right for our family.

dance moves The (secret) benefits of extended breastfeeding strike a pose The (secret) benefits of extended breastfeeding

Did you nurse (or are you currently nursing) beyond age 1? If so, what are the benefits for you and your toddler?

Summer Fashion: Bravado! Designs

im logo Summer Fashion: Bravado! DesignsRecently overheard on Facebook: “I still haven’t found a nursing bra that I really like.”

Of course, I chimed in and said, “Have you tried Bravado?

LMB Black 170x200 127x150 Summer Fashion: Bravado! DesignsBravado! Designs was started by two moms in 1992…and they definitely “get” what nursing moms want – simplicity, comfort, support, and style.

I’ve had the Lifestyle Microfiber Bra ($39; $25 in hot pink) for over a year now and it is definitely one of the very first bras that I pull from my closet…when it’s clean, that is! (I’m constantly washing and wearing it!).

Sublime Cherry 170x200 127x150 Summer Fashion: Bravado! DesignsNow, I have another new favorite: the Sublime Nursing Bra in Black Cherry ($49). It’s super pretty, sublimely stretchy, and wonderfully supportive – without pinching or poking (I can’t stand underwire, by the way…so I appreciate that this bra offers “lift without lead”).

Need a few other reasons to love Bravado? The company is committed to green business practices and is diligent about giving back to the community. Plus, they’re running a Summer Pampering Sweepstakes right now, giving away a total of $600 worth of prizes (enter before July 24!).

P.S. If you would like to stay connected with BD, I suggest that you: Follow Bravado! Designs on Twitter.

WIN IT! One winner will receive a Sublime Nursing Bra ($49.00; pictured above). To enter, leave any topic-related comment on this post prior to Saturday, July 17th at 11:59 p.m. All generic comments like “Enter me!,” “Love it,” and “Cool stuff!” will be disqualified. Winner must provide a US mailing address.

* Bravado! Designs sent me a sample for review purposes and is also providing 1 nursing bra for the giveaway.

*UPDATE* The winner is #71 Christy. Congratulations!

Summer Fashion: Cake Lingerie

There used to be a day when nursing bras were boring. Beige and white were the only color options available. If you were lucky, you *might* find a black bra at a specialty boutique. The sizes were wonky, the fits were all wrong, and they certainly weren’t alluring.

cake lingerie logo Summer Fashion: Cake LingerieFortunately, we live in a brave new world. Designers have stepped up and created beautiful lingerie options for new mums.

Case-in-point: Cake Lingerie. The Sydney-based company was established in 2008 by a new mother who found herself disenchanted by the underwear options for nursing mothers.

If you’re a pregnant or nursing mom, you’ll be pleasantly surprised by the options: frills, lace, polka dots, pink, red, blue, black, cream, more.

Beside bras and panties, you’ll find gowns, robes, and camisoles. Prices for all pieces start at $29.90 on up.

Screen shot 2010 07 06 at 10.44.41 PM Summer Fashion: Cake Lingerie

If you would like to stay connected w/ the brand, I suggest that you:

Like Cake Lingerie on Facebook or Follow Cake Lingerie on Twitter.

WIN IT! One winner will receive a Plum Pudding Set ($87.80; pictured above). To enter, leave any topic-related comment on this post prior to Saturday, July 17th at 11:59 p.m. All generic comments like “Enter me!,” “Love it,” and “Cool stuff!” will be disqualified. Winner must provide a US mailing address.

* Cake Lingerie sent me a sample for review purposes and is also providing 1 lingerie set for the giveaway.

*UPDATE* The winner is #61 The Jacobsen Family. Congratulations!

Healthcare Reform {vote for me}

I know “the bill” just passed – the one everyone is talking about, with rage and fury. {But that’s not what this post is about}.

I just want to share 3 of my ideas for making healthcare better:

Switch to a midwifery model of care for births.

Did you know that:

Screen shot 2010 03 22 at 2.30.04 PM 150x148 Healthcare Reform {vote for me}This seems absurd when we have highly skilled surgeons and the latest & greatest technology. Women give birth in posh hospitals with flat screen monitors and continuous monitoring, but the maternal mortality rate is INCREASING.

If you want the very best birthing outcomes for both mother and baby, you should probably move to the Netherlands, where the Cesarean rate hovers at about 12%. The Netherlands (and, indeed, almost all of Europe) utilize midwives as the first line of care for normal pregnant women. The country also has the highest rate of home births in the western world at 30 percent and only 10 percent of women in labor are given pain relief. Compare that to the United States where “Less than 1 percent of all births in the United States take place outside the hospital (ABC News, March 2010).”

Encourage and support breastfeeding.

Screen shot 2010 03 22 at 2.48.52 PM Healthcare Reform {vote for me}The benefits of breastfeeding are well-documented. So well-documented, in fact, that I almost feel they don’t need to be stated here. Breastfed babies are less likely to get diabetes, cancer, asthma, liver disease, ear infections, diarrhea, allergies, even cavities. They’re less likely to die of SIDS, less likely to be obese, etc.

Although the initiation rate for breastfeeding in the US is 73% (CDC, 2009 Breastfeeding Report Card), the percentage of moms exclusively breastfeeding at 3 months drops to 33% and then to 13% at 6 months. There are many, many reasons behind this (lack of support, not knowing what to expect, the fact that breastfeeding can hurt, etc.) – but I do believe that we could do a much better job of educating and championing new mothers with regards to breastfeeding.

Treat obesity as a threat to our economy and the future of our country.

exercise busy schedule Healthcare Reform {vote for me}The United States has one of the highest obesity rates in the world, with 67% of adults being overweight and 34% being obese. Should current trends continue, 75% of adults in the United States are projected to be overweight and 41% obese by 2015.

It goes without saying that obesity puts a huge strain on healthcare. Indeed, obesity has increased health care use and expenditures, costing society an estimated $117 billion in direct and indirect costs. This accounts for 6% to 12% of national health care expenditures in the Unites States! Unreal.

How should the government go about tackling these issues?

uncle sam 108x150 Healthcare Reform {vote for me}I have ideas. A lot of ideas. The government could make it easier for midwives to practice, for example. They could support birth centers and home births or, better yet, work toward a positive relationship between midwives and OBs. They could give insurance cuts or tax credits to people who breastfeed or who stay within a healthy BMI (Body Mass Index). They could channel the incredible power of social media to get the word out about nutrition and exercise.

Or…WE could just do it ourselves. I’m not really a “BIG Government” kind-of girl. I appreciate the government and its role to keep our country safe and thriving, but – overall – I like the idea of individual people working together to improve their communities. Grassroots efforts, if you will.

The truth is that we need to vote with our voices, our hands, and our pocketbooks.

Choose a midwife. Breastfeed your baby. Go for a walk. Buy eggs, milk, and meat from a local farm with ethical standards. Use facebook as more than just a place to say what you ate for dinner. Love your family. Your small actions have a ripple effect that can rock your local and global community.

stephanie sheaffer Healthcare Reform {vote for me}So, vote for me. Stephanie Sheaffer.

Actually, scratch that. Vote with your actions. Find your causes. Pursue them…with humility, hard work, and plenty of kindness. That last sentence is particularly important.

YOUR TURN: What do you think our country’s most important healthcare issues are?

SLY Awards: Glamourmom

Screen shot 2010 03 16 at 9.05.16 PM SLY Awards: GlamourmomSLY Award recipient Kristen McGee nursed her son for a full year and I know she is looking forward to offering that same gift to her baby girl (due in late May).

Kristen is the best kind of breastfeeding advocate because she willingly and humbly shares her breastfeeding experiences with other new moms and moms-to-be. She’s not pushy about it though; just helpful and supportive. The world needs more moms like that.

I am happy to be gifting Kristen with a Nursing Bra Tank or Top of her choice from Glamourmom.

Nursing Tank ruby red lg SLY Awards: GlamourmomGlamourmom’s tanks and tops “feature a built-in nursing bra that offers superior breast support and tummy coverage for discretion.” Invented by a mom of three small children, the tanks are available in a wide variety of colors and lengths. I particularly like this ruby red color…

Glamourmom also sells nursing sleepwear, a nursing bra slip dress, and a long-sleeved nursing shirt.

YOUR TURN: Have you ever bought a Gamourmom nursing tank? If so, what did you like/not like about it? What other nursing tanks do you love?

Logo 150x53 SLY Awards: GlamourmomWIN IT! One winner will receive a Nursing Bra Tank (Style A1) or Nursing Bra Top (Style B1) from Glamourmom. To enter, leave any topic-related comment on this post prior to Wednesday, March 24th at 11:59 p.m. All generic comments like “Enter me!,” “Love it,” and “Cool stuff!” will be disqualified. Winner must provide a U.S. or Canadian mailing address.

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sly awards SLY Awards: GlamourmomGlamourmom has generously donated 2 nursing tanks for this SLY Awards promotion – one for Kristen and one for the giveaway. I received no product or monetary compensation for this post. I’m just excited to celebrate Kristen and…you.

*UPDATE* The winner is #10 mrs. p. Congratulations!

1st Bday: Anytime Nursing Gown by Bella Materna

1st birthday cupcake 1st Bday: Anytime Nursing Gown by Bella MaternaWhen my first daughter turned one [see left], I began to feel pressure…to stop breastfeeding.

It was mostly subtle. People would ask how much longer I planned to continue. They would say things like, “Oh! I can’t imagine breastfeeding a baby with teeth! Doesn’t it hurt?” and “Once a baby can walk/talk…it’s weird.”

But…it wasn’t weird for us. Nor is it weird for parents across the globe. On the contrary, nursing a toddler is a beautiful thing – a gift of health, comfort, and closeness.

Now that my second baby is almost one, I don’t feel that same pressure. Perhaps some of it was self-imposed. If people make comments like the ones listed above, I feel confident enough to humbly and truthfully share our experience…or to just smile and bypass the controversy. Every mother – every family – makes different decisions for different reasons. I choose to nurse my babies longer than the “American norm”…and I gently, assuredly stand by that choice.

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Screen shot 2010 03 01 at 8.23.26 PM 150x32 1st Bday: Anytime Nursing Gown by Bella MaternaOne thing that makes nursing easier (no matter how long you choose to nurse) is being able to slip into pretty, soft, and feminine pajamas at the end of the day.

Bella Materna is a Seattle-based, mom-owned company that offers beautiful nursing and maternity bras, camisoles, sleepwear, loungewear, and lingerie. I particularly like the French Lace collection (so sophisticated).

43 150x150 1st Bday: Anytime Nursing Gown by Bella MaternaI have the Anytime Nursing Gown [pictured left] and it is luxuriously soft and silky. The gown gives me enough support that I don’t have to wear a bra (hallelujah!), but it’s also refreshingly free of underwire (not a nursing mama’s best friend). I’m not currently pregnant, but I can definitely see how it could expand gracefully over a burgeoning belly.

Up next for the company? I’m *hoping* for sleepwear in brighter and deeper colors and an above-the-knee robe for those first few postpartum days/weeks.

WIN IT! One winner will receive an Anytime Nursing Gown ($98) by Bella Materna. To enter, leave any topic-related comment on this post prior to Tuesday, March 9th at 11:59 p.m. (Don’t forget to follow the rules…all generic comments like “Enter me!,” “Love it,” and “Cool stuff!” will be disqualified.).

* I received a product for review purposes.

*UPDATE* The winner is #74  jennifer. Congratulations!