How We Save Money…by shopping at expensive grocery stores

whole foods market austin texas How We Save Money...by shopping at expensive grocery stores

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I am a fan of upscale grocery stores. They have wide aisles and beautiful displays. They tend to offer in-store amenities and samples. They usually offer superior customer service. AND – they save us money.

In our family, we don’t abide by the “eat everything on your plate” mentality. In fact, we adopt quite a different philosophy: “Eat delicious, healthful foods until you are full.” If we buy rolls and they end up being stale, we throw them away. If I go to a dinner party, sample a truffle, and don’t care for it…I (discreetly) throw it away. If I order something at a restaurant and find that the side dish is salty and unsatisfying, I leave it on my plate.

It is important to clarify that our family does not invite complaint, rudeness, or unnecessary waste to sit at our table. We are teaching our girls to say “please,” “you’re welcome,” “excuse me” and – especially – “thank you.” We encourage them to try new foods and, if they don’t like something, to eat other foods quietly. We strive to lead by example in practicing these principles.

The purpose of food is twofold: to nourish us AND to be enjoyed.

We save money when we buy from high-quality food vendors (upscale grocery stores, independent bakeries, farmer’s markets, health food stores) because we tend to eat all of the food. The produce is more likely to be ripe and in-season. The meat is more likely to be organic and unadulterated. The bread is more likely to be fresh and heavenly. We eat every last morsel – or save the rest for leftovers (which we actually eat). Zero waste. Plus, our bodies feel alive and energetic (rather than sluggish from eating processed, hormoned, salted, and high-fructosed foods).

bananas How We Save Money...by shopping at expensive grocery storesOver the years, we have acquired a taste for good-for-you food. Our girls love peas, corn, broccoli, pears, peaches, sweet potatoes, tomatoes, cucumbers, fresh bread, and whole milk.

One time, when we were very busy, we took the girls to Chic-Fil-A and ordered a kids meal. Our 4-year-old took about 2 bites of the chicken nuggets and fries, and then said quietly, “This doesn’t taste good.” Touché. I didn’t have the heart to make them finish.

Another time, we bought a smoothie from a fast-food place. “Our smoothies are better,” our 4-year-old declared after a few sips. Maybe because they actually have fruit in them?!

When we drive by Burger King or a similar establishment, they wrinkle their noses, “What’s that smell?

Even on a meager budget, eating well is possible. Think: rice, beans, frozen veggies, made-from-scratch baked goods, and as much produce as you can manage (look into co-ops and CSA’s).

We save money at better grocery stores because the quality of the food is better…which means that we waste less and also stay healthier (less illness; fewer doctor’s visits). Food is medicine, after all. I do believe that.

* We also cut corners by limiting meat consumption, eating simple meals, and – most importantly – eating IN. 

How do you save money at the grocery store? Please share your expertise.  (I’m still looking for ways to bring our monthly total down a notch).

my blog is a business (and I’m proud of that)

dusty rose coat smiling my blog is a business (and Im proud of that)Fact: I have a small business. I pour hours into it – waking up early, staying up late. I spend money on marketing and development. I strategize. I seek mentors. I have business lunches and virtual conference calls. I pay taxes.

That business? You’re looking at it. Metropolitan Mama.

Every once in awhile, I get the message from other bloggers that if you’re trying to make money or review products or sell advertising or any combination of those activities, then you’re a sell-out. I disagree adamantly.

Business is not a bad word. On the contrary, businesses can be run with integrity. Businesses can do good in the world. Businesses can turn out excellent products. Businesses can be the foundation for strong relationships. And – yes – businesses can help put food on the table.

Just because I am seeking a profit as a blogger does not mean that I sell out my voice or compromise my content. In fact, I protect both things unwaveringly (my husband would say I protect them a little too much sometimes). Example: a notable popsicle brand recently invited me to be a part of a paid campaign. I declined because they have “high fructose corn syrup” in them (an ingredient my family tries to stay away from).

That being said, I eagerly enter into partnerships with brands that coincide with my family’s lifestyle and philosophies. I sell advertising spots and have sponsorship campaign packages (feel free to contact me if you’re interested). I enjoy public speaking, being an ambassador for products I believe in, and attending conferences. I have tens of thousands of readers from all over the United States, Canada, and beyond.

I certainly respect that blogs exist for many different reasons. Some are journals; some are photo-logs. Some are meant for family & friends. Some have tens of readers; some have thousands. Some bloggers don’t want to maintain a business; some do. And all those reasons for blogging are good.

My particular blog exists as a business. I’m in the business of encouraging, inspiring, and challenging mothers. I’m in the business of writing, publishing, and creating relationships. I’m in the business of changing the world in the best way that I know how.

I am *also* bringing in an income for my family…and I’m cool with that. I hope you are too.

Do you blog? If so, do you consider it to be a business or would you like it to be?

If you are an entrepreneur of any kind, what are your favorite books, websites, and/or conferences?

I’m a BIG spender. I am.

cutest smile ever Im a BIG spender. I am.I spend my time - lavishly – on…

park trips
kiddie pool dips
holding a baby on my hip
answering “why?”
wiping eyes dry
long talks at night
lingering in the yellow sunlight
baking cookies and licking the spoon
reading MargaretWiseBrown’s goodnight moon
trying to avoid the status quo
but also just trying to go with the flow
holding small hands – so soft, so sweet
walking through grass in bare summer feet
getting open-mouthed kisses
as I wash the dishes
praying for wisdom, for grace, and for rest
striving to give my best of the best

I spend my heart – lavishly – on the people around me. And just when I feel I don’t have any more to give, I realize my heart is full again – all the way to the brim. (I’m pretty sure that’s how giving works).

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dairy queen kids cone Im a BIG spender. I am.Money? Eh, I don’t spend that stuff much.

Before Tim left on his 2-week trip, he gave me a $20 bill. When he got back, I still had $6 of it*.

I would have had all of it, but I took the girls to Dairy Queen** – TWICE. My 3-year-old knows how to place her own order: a swirl “kids cone” with sprinkles. My 1-year-old can eat an entire cone by herself! We also bought stickers & poster board from the local school supply store (There are so many fun products to be found there…but it’s a little pricey!) for our “Welcome Home, Daddy!” poster.

* I actually did buy groceries a couple of times w/ a card.
** Dairy Queen is definitely NOT my favorite ice cream place. It just happens to be the closest. :)

Where is the best place to buy ice cream in your city? What is the most affordable store that you have found for buying school/craft supplies?

How much does it cost to have a baby?

sleeping baby august 2009 How much does it cost to have a baby?There’s quite a bit of talk about how expensive babies are. To be honest, I’m quite bewildered by that because a baby’s first year of life doesn’t have to be a big-ticket affair. Certainly, there are added expenses, but there are so many ways to drive down the cost.

Babies really need very little. Snuggles. Sweetness. Something to eat. Somewhere to lay their heads to sleep.

Consider these ten tips:

1. Give birth at a birth center (or at home). You can save an estimated 30-50% by delivering at a birth center instead of a hospital. To find out more about birth centers, read my past article: Birth Centers 101. To read about my personal experience giving birth at a hospital for baby #1 and at a birth center for baby #2, read: Birth Centers versus Hospitals. To find a birth center near you, visit the AABC website. Or you can choose to give birth at home – an even less expensive option.

2. Breastfeed. La Leche League reports that “A woman who formula- feeds her baby will spend more than $100 (US) each month on formula, and that’s only if she buys the least-expensive concentrated powder…” Multiply that by 12…at the least, you’ll spend $1,200 a year on formula. If you go with the pricier brands, you could end up spending over $6,000! If you compare that to the cost of breastfeeding (um…$0), there really is no comparison. Not to mention all of the health benefits to baby and to you.

3. Skip the elaborate baby nursery. When you are pregnant, people will inevitably ask you if the “nursery” is “done.” Just smile and nod, smile and nod. The commercial baby industry would have us believe that we need the whole matchy-matchy ensemble – painted walls, curtains, crib sheets and bumper, changing table, framed artwork, etc. While it is perfectly okay if you WANT to decorate that dream area just like in the catalogs, it is 100% unnecessary. Many babies don’t even sleep in their “own rooms” anyway and, even if they do, I promise you THEY won’t care a bit if the room is decorated with teddy bears, tutus, tiggers, or turquoise.

4. Don’t go bananas over baby gear. When you get those super long baby registry checklists at Babies R Us and Target, you’ll be tempted to buy a long list of products: a crib, a swing, a bouncy chair, a baby seat, a car seat cover, a device that lets you hear baby’s heartbeat in the womb, etc. Be weary of such lists. In fact, I highly recommend that you promptly tear out the list and throw it in the garbage. The best baby gear advice is probably to “wait and see.” Some families use cribs; some families don’t. Some babies like swings; some babies don’t. Some babies like to be swaddled super tight; some babies don’t. Etc. When it comes to baby gear, waiting is wise.

5. Remember that toys are overrated. Point A: Itty bitty babies don’t play with toys. Point B: Even older babies don’t play with many toys (they will just as soon play with your water bottle or a cardboard box). Point C: People will likely give you more toys than your child will really need. Point D: Most kids like imaginative activities (riding bikes, making mud pies, painting, blowing bubbles, etc.) better than playing with toys. Point E: Most toys are cheap-y, plastic things made of questionable materials. Conclusion? Your baby does not need you to buy them toys – especially in the 1st year of life.

6. Rediscover the wonder of the public library. Books, DVDs, CDs…all at your fingertips. Plus, there are storytimes and events and programs. Did I mention the whole experience is FREE?

7. Make friends with nature. Entertainment at its best occurs in the great wide open. Go for a walk. Have a picnic. Stargaze. Watch the clouds. Babies love that – as should we. Nature is good for the soul – and that “attraction” doesn’t cost a dime.

8. Get chummy with CraigsList. Let’s say you have your heart set on buying a swing or an ERGObaby carrier or a video monitor. Before you head to a baby department store, check CraigsList. You’ll probably find that some of the items for sale are barely used or even brand new.

9. Don’t be ashamed of secondhand style. Even if you don’t like shopping at thrift stores, yard sales, and consignment shops for yourself…consider it for your wee ones. Babies grow out of things so fast. And you can get pieces at pretty amazing prices if you know where to look. Another option is to host a clothes swap in your home with friends.

10. Consider being a stay-at-home mom (or encourage your husband to be a stay-at-home dad). When you factor in child care expenses, wear-and-tear on vehicles, and medical bills (kids in childcare tend to get sick more often than their at-home counterparts), that second income dwindles quite a bit. In fact, I know some couples who end up PAYING to go to work.

Sometimes I talk to women who tell me how “lucky” I am to be able to stay at home or how they wish they could, but…”luck” has nothing to do with it. I want to make it very, very clear that I am not “lucky” to be a stay-at-home mom. I choose it. We choose it. We have a smaller house than we can afford. We have used cars. We eat in. What it comes down to is choices. You can be a stay-at-home parent too (if you want).

And there are always work-from-home options as well…

YOUR TURN: What are your top money-saving tips for baby’s first year?

how to save money at the grocery store

Picture 11 how to save money at the grocery storeHas anyone else noticed that grocery prices have skyrocketed in the past year or two? I actually went grocery shopping today for a few necessities (milk, produce, bread) and a thing or two for a certain someone‘s upcoming 3rd birthday party…and ended up spending over $100!

Oh me. Oh my.

Normally, we shop with a list. And we’re typically pretty thrifty. But today I bought a few extras: a green tablecloth, a number “3″ candle, and chocolate frosting with rainbow-colored sprinkles.

Here are 5 things we strive to do to keep our bill manageable:

1. Shop with a list. I know you read this tip on every frugal-themed blog and website, but it really can cut down expenses (and stress). I almost always meal plan ahead of time and send my husband with a list (he does most of the grocery shopping…today was an exception).

2. Think long term, not short term. It can be tempting to buy frozen dinners and boxed snacks. Don’t do it – though that $.99 price tag beckons you. Eating recklessly (processed, high-fat, high-sugar, high-fake) will result in poor health, a weakened immune system, and weight gain. In the long run, that kind of lifestyle will “cost” you more. Besides, making homemade snacks and meals actually can be cheaper if you buy in bulk and watch for sales.

3. Don’t use coupons. Couponing programs and sites fascinate me. The lure of saving hundreds of dollars is promising, but coupons only save you money if you are ALREADY going to buy the item. This is the primary reason we rarely use coupons. The fact of the matter is that most coupons are for ready-made meals and convenience foods. Think about it: how often do you see coupons for fresh blueberries, organic sweet potatoes, and eggs from the local farm? Not often enough.

4. Do use coupons. Tip #3 should be taken with a grain of salt because many people can and do save money with coupons. I know that I need to get better about it – especially for home care products like toilet paper, laundry detergent, deodorant, and paper towels.

5. Try the generic brand. Some brand name foods are just plain better. Take Tillamook cheese, for example. We buy it every single time. Other foods, however, can easily be bought generic. It’s good to experiment. Brand names are not always better.

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Another option is to shop at a bargain market…

companyoverview how to save money at the grocery storeMy family and I recently were given the opportunity to try shopping at Grocery Outlet, an extreme value market of bargains and closeouts. The store was clean and brightly colored, but the carts were dirty and disorderly (aren’t all grocery carts kind of icky though?). The aisles were filled with brand name products – Crest and Hidden Valley, Ocean Spray and Hunt’s, Starbucks and Brawny.

Here’s how the website describes the Grocery Outlet shopping experience: “We search the world for unique and exciting BARGAINS on everything from orchids to wine, from imported cheese to furniture, so every trip to Grocery Outlet is like a treasure hunt.”

That is a fantastic description. Grocery Outlet is kind of like shopping at Ross Dress for Less or T.J. Maxx. Sometimes, you go there and look and look to no avail. Other times, you find EXACTLY what you are looking for. But it’s hit-or-miss, a “scavenger hunt,” if you will. It’s not the kind of place that you show up with a planned list and you can find everything on it (some weeks they might have tomato sauce, other weeks they might not). But it IS a place to find deals. I think it’s a good place to find gifts too – we bought a few bottles of wine, for example, and…some fancy brand name bars of dark chocolate. Be careful to check the expiration dates because we found a thing or two that had expired or that had quickly-approaching dates. I probably wouldn’t buy produce or dairy items at my local Grocery Outlet, but I would buy paper products, pasta, salsa, laundry detergent, snacks, etc.

If you like the thrill of treasure hunting, of finding unexpected good buys…then say hello to Grocery Outlet.

YOUR TURN: How do YOU save money at the grocery store?

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*UPDATE* The winner is #16 Debbie. Congratulations!

Surprising Way to Save Money #3: Eat @ Expensive Restaurants

When our family goes out to eat, we prefer to eat at expensive restaurants. Places with all-natural ingredients and gourmet menu items, all prepared by a real chef.

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I have to admit that I’m actually kind of a restaurant snob. I expect flavorful, healthful, delicious plates of food in a clean, upbeat environment with excellent customer service.

You might wonder where I get such a “picky palate.”

Well, I’ll tell you. I’m picky because we almost always eat AT HOME. And food at home is just soooo much better. Fresh. Nutritious. Served with Love. With the added bonus that our kids can squeal, laugh, coo, and cry all that they want. I love eating in. It’s cheaper and it tastes better.

So, the title of this post is a tad bit deceiving. The REAL way to save money is by eating IN – almost all of the time. Then, when you do go out (once in a blue moon), you can afford to eat at expensive restaurants.

But you won’t want to eat at expensive places just because they’re expensive. The truth is that fancier places tend to serve better food. Better food will fuel your body more appropriately and may even prevent illnesses down the road. For example, eating fast food may be cheaper in the short term, but – in the long run – your “bill” for being overweight or unhealthy will be higher. You’ll have to buy gym memberships, weight loss programs, blood pressure monitors, medications, etc.

What I am trying to say is it pays to be picky. You don’t have to go places that charge $20+/plate. But do stay away from the everything-is-fried-and-processed shops. Even if they do have a dollar menu. A dollar today maybe…but a thousand dollars tomorrow (or more)…

Most of all, remember that eating in is the way to go for optimal money savings…both now and in the future.

Image Credit: All three of the tantalizing dishes above are part of the menu at Blue Lemon Bistro, a restaurant in Utah that I bet I’d like quite a bit.