the birth story of audrey jane

This is the birth story of Audrey Jane –  born on Friday, April 13, 2012. All times are approximate.

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11:20am Tim, the girls, and I drive to the birth center for an appointment. Midwife Kerry checks and I’m 4cm, 85% effaced, baby’s head is low. After discussing options, she strips my membranes and we talk about old wives tales for inducing labor naturally since I am 4 days overdue.

Noon-ish We stop at Chipotle for lunch. Tim & I share a burrito (I eat about 1/3 of it and am full). I am having contractions that cause me to mildly catch my breath. A middle-aged man in a cowboy hat looks at me as I have one and half-smiles out of the corner of his mouth. I wonder if he knows.

Early Afternoon We walk around the mall (one of our least favorite places, by the way) on a mission to find Kayla tennis shoes. Without success, we decide to leave. I am still having mild contractions – not exactly painful, just pressure. We drive to Tim’s parents house on the way home, “just in case.”

3:00pm The girls bound inside the house to play with “Ma.” Tim & I walk the property, taking breaks to sip orange juice and water. My contractions are building in intensity now. I lean over the trees and pray during each contraction, snapping branches with the palm of my hand as the pain peaks. Tim begins timing. 4 minutes apart…

3:15pm I start to sing through the contractions. Oddly, “Come Thou Fount” (an old hymn) is in my mind and I sing bits + pieces (I hardly know any of the lyrics, actually…but the tune is comforting).

3:30 pm Tim says the contractions are consistently 90 seconds apart now and is concerned because I am singing. He texts Rhonda (a nurse at the birth center and our friend). I hear him run back-and-forth, taking out car seats and telling his parents and the girls that we are leaving. They scream with delight. I imagine them jumping up and down with eager anticipation.

4:00pm We drive. Tim calls the birth center to let them know we are on-the-way. I hold on to the handle of the door with both hands when the contractions come – and I sing. Mercifully, the contractions seem to slow down slightly in the truck. I wonder if my labor will stop, if this is really “it.” (This is funny in hindsight since I was very close to actually having the baby).

4:20pm Pulling up, I have a contraction and sing through it. Midwife Fran greets me, “Do you need a wheelchair?” She must know that I am close, even though I don’t. I decline and walk in. A room is ready for me – the one with desert green walls and wooden decor. The lights are low. The water is running in the tub. I feel safe, but scared. I lean against the bed post when the contractions come, singing with all my might.

4:45pm I decide to get in the tub, stripping down to my wine-colored bra and my silver necklace. The contractions come and I lean forward on all fours, gripping the hands of Rhonda and Tim. Singing still, but also crying out words that bring me comfort, “Lord, Help Me!” “I’m so scared!” “Baby, I love you!” Midwife Sandy is in the room, along with Nurse Olivia and Nurse Rhonda. Their presence comforts me, although I can’t make out their faces.

At one point, Sandy asks, “Is she wearing lipstick?” Olivia adds, “She looks beautiful.” Rhonda says, “She always wears lipstick.” In between contractions, I laugh with my eyes closed, “Yes, I always do.”

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1 hour after birth

4:55pm The urge to push grips my body. I am terrified, but I let go – knowing deep inside that I can do this, drawing strength from Tim and the room and the Lord. I hear someone humming the tune of “Come Thou Fount.” Later, I ask Tim who it was and he says he doesn’t remember anyone humming.  When I say, “I don’t know if I can do this,” Tim answers, “You can. You ARE. Our baby will be here soon.” I push.

5:10pm Sandy asks me to stand up a little. I do, supported by Tim and Rhonda. With a relieving push, the baby’s head slides out. I reach down to catch her and hold her in my arms, mesmerized. I step over the tub and walk to the bed, holding her, the cord still attached and pulsing. Tim & I exchange looks of sheer joy and wonder at the miracle of it all. He cuts the cord. I deliver the placenta. We are wildly happy, delirious, not at all tired.

Five hours later (10:00pm) We walk out to the truck. Baby in arms. I start shaking from the cold as we stand in the parking lot, my teeth chattering…but I warm up with a robe and towel pulled around me when we start driving. We pick up the girls. Kayla is overjoyed, holding Audrey’s tiny hand, adoring. Liv is sleeping.

By 1am, we are all in bed. The girls are tucked in their bunkbed. Tim & I stare in awe at the little one on the bed in between us. “I am SO happy,” I say for the hundredth time.

Meet Audrey Jane

big sister holding newborn Meet Audrey Jane sunday afternoon Meet Audrey Jane morning nap Meet Audrey Jane

Born on Friday, April 13

5:10pm

8 pounds 10 ounces

20.5 inches long

We are at home – resting, grateful.

More photos + a birth story soon.

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6 months ago today

It was March 13. My husband and I drove up to the birth center at 7:30 p.m.

It was dark. I stopped on the sidewalk to have an overwhelming contraction in the moonlight.

birth center entrance 6 months ago today

We walked through the door and were greeted by warm lights and the gentle, assuring voice of our nurse. As she put sheets on the bed and prepared our room, we walked back and forth in the welcome area and through the kitchen. It was so calming there, so quiet – just us two and the nurse in plain clothes.

No IVs. No scrubs. No beeping monitors. No wires. No hospital gown. No glaring lights and barren white walls. No scurrying about. No – it was not at all like that.

birth center welcome area 6 months ago today

I labored. I sang. I leaned against the bureau with each contraction, moaning with music in my voice.

birth center room 6 months ago today birth center room 2 6 months ago today

The nurse asked if I wanted to get in the tub. I said, yes. I glided into the tub – the water comforting me. My contractions intensified. My water broke. I was on my hands and knees, afraid yet empowered. I pushed…

tub at birth center 6 months ago today

And then there she was. Beautiful. Perfect. Calm and Sweet. My husband and I smiled at each other. We couldn’t stop looking at her, our baby.

day after baby was born picture 6 months ago todayIt was 8:30 p.m. Almost exactly one hour from the time we arrived.

We checked out at 1 something in the morning, stopping to pick up our older daughter at my in-laws’ house (we had dropped her off on the way to the birth center earlier that evening). By 2:30 a.m., we were all home. We tucked in our then-2-year-old and got into bed – our bed – and fell blissfully asleep.

Quietly, gently…we became a family of four.

***If I can help it, I will never, ever deliver a baby in a hospital again. Ever. Did I mention that the birth center was a thousand times better? It was. It really, really was.

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Lovely controlled birth; hands and knees in tub.

Those are the words that my midwife wrote on my birth records under “Delivery Comments.”

I’m not sure I would use the word “controlled” to describe my labor experience. After all, it involved plenty of screaming and moaning (and singing, incidentally…). But I WOULD describe it as fast and furious and…overwhelmingly positive. I really couldn’t have asked for a more pleasant experience (as far as labors go, that is).

Here’s how the day played out:

Friday, March 13, 2009

10:00 a.m. I am sitting out in the backyard in the sunshine  - watching our 2-year-old play in her playhouse and drawing smiley faces with sidewalk chalk on the wall. I tell my husband rather nonchalantly, “I’m feeling some pressure down below, almost like the head descending. No, not like Braxton Hicks. But it really could be nothing…

Noon. My husband and daughter go grocery shopping. I post on my blog and do some work. We eat lunch and discuss everyday things.

3:00 p.m. We decide to head downtown to take care of some business at the Secretary of State office. In the elevator, I stop and say, “Hold on. Just a minute. I’m feeling a little pressure. Okay, I’m fine.” After that, we drive to Walgreens to buy a birthday present for our next door neighbor’s daughter. The contractions are coming regularly now, but I don’t want to jump to conclusions too soon.

4-something. We arrive home. I tell my husband to put our bags in the car and suggest that we clean the house…”just in case.” He busies himself with laundry and dishes and vacuuming (in a frenzy, I might add), while I make enchiladas and build block towers with our 2-year-old in her room. At one point, I get on my hands and knees.

5-something. The intensity of the contractions begins to heighten (I would later tell the midwife that my labor began at 5:00 p.m.) We sit down to eat dinner and I jump out of my seat every 5 or 6 minutes to lean against the wall. My daughter asks, “Are you okay, mommy?” “Yes,” I say, “mommy’s okay.”

My husband and I have a conversation kind of like this:

  • Husband: Should I call my parents?
  • Me: No, not yet. I’m not sure this is it.
  • Five minutes later…
  • Me: Call your parents. We have to go…NOW.

6:30 p.m. We meet Tim’s parents in-town (they were out eating dinner) to drop off our daughter. “Do you think you’re close?” my father-in-law asks through the car window. “It’s hard to say,” I  answer back.

7:00 p.m. We arrive at the birth center. It’s quiet and peaceful there. The nurse greets us kindly and tells us that she’s getting the room ready. I walk around the main area, stopping to lean against the wall with each contraction. When the contractions come, I sing. Not words. Just notes. “You’re a singer,” the nurse says gently, “Your voice is beautiful.” “Actually, no,” I smile in between pains, “only in labor.” Somehow it seems to help.

7:30 p.m. The nurse asks if I would like to try to get in the tub. I say, “yes.” The warm water feels surprisingly good. I sit. When the contractions come, I always say, “here comes another” and lean forward on my hands and knees while Tim massages my lower back and caresses me gently with his fingertips.

8:00 p.m. The contractions intensify. My singing turns to screaming, panting. In between, I pray aloud, “Lord, help me. Lord, you are good to me. Help me to trust you.” And I talk to the baby: “I love you, baby. I can’t wait to meet you.” And I say, “I’m scared, Tim. I’m so scared. I don’t know if I can do this.” But I know I can. I know the baby will be here soon.

8:15 p.m. My water breaks during one of my contractions. Blood oozes slowly into the bath water, tinting it red. I am on my hands and knees. The urge to push consumes my body. I give in because it is the only thing that I can do. I feel like I might explode or pass out. “Pant. Quick pants,” the midwife guides me. I try to breathe…and then I push. I feel the baby’s head, then the body…then a cry. I am in immediate euphoria.

8:30 p.m. My husband is holding her. He passes her through my legs, umbilical cord still attached. I hold her, mesmerized by the miracle. “She’s beautiful,” I say. “She’s here.

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