Themed Weekend: Be the LOVE

heart in hands Themed Weekend: Be the LOVEBe the change you wish to see in the world.” – Mahatma Gandhi

I’ve been thinking about that quote a lot lately. The phrase is used repeatedly in our culture – on billboards, in magazines, at political rallies, and in places of learning.

But the truth is that I never tire of hearing it. No matter how many times I read it or hear it, it speaks to me.

Kind of like 1 Corinthians 13.

The poetry of that piece dazzles me:

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres…

love red heart Themed Weekend: Be the LOVEI actually memorized that entire chapter in college and recited it as part of a presentation that I did in a Literature class about the various depictions of love in classic literary works. I remember the words rolling off of my tongue, the utter silence in the room as the lovely lyrics filled the room to the brim. Bible believer or not, those words are spellbinding.

Especially the last line: “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.

a mom and her girls Themed Weekend: Be the LOVEMaybe I should memorize it again – and recite it to another captive audience that I have these days – 2 smart, sensible, spontaneous, and stunning little girls (see right).

More importantly, I need to focus on living those words. What does it mean – in real time – to protect, to trust, to hope, to persevere? What does it mean to “be the change”? How can I let those words seep into my heart, my hands, my life?

Those are the questions I want to explore this weekend. Sure, there will be product reviews and giveaways as usual (including one EXTRA special giveaway). But there will also be plenty of opportunities to discuss kindness, to brainstorm strategies to help others. Won’t you join me as I strive with all my might to be the change, be the good, be the hope, be the…love…that I wish to see in the world?

“hand me my notepad…I thought up another way to change the world”

Today, like every day, I found myself contemplating how I can change the world.

I think about it often – how life just isn’t fair, how people are hurting and hungry and sick.

I have this notepad where I write down all the little things that I can do to make the world a better place, both locally and globally…and I carry it around with me almost all day long.

My 2-year-old is used to this. She’ll often say, “here’s your nurse pad, mommy” (She means “note pad,” of course…but, for some reason, she always calls it a “nurse pad“).

I always tell her that I’m writing down ways to help all the kids in the world that don’t have clothes or food or mommies and daddies. And I can tell she’s starting to pick up on that message. She scampers over to me with one of her toys or books at least once a week and says, “this is for the other kids.” It’s the sweetest thing.

Sometimes, I get discouraged. I think to myself, “I could be the president of a non-profit. I could be in Africa or India or South America. I could be speaking about poverty and disease prevention…

But, instead, I’m here.

Making smiliey faces for lunch:

smiley face lunch hand me my notepad...I thought up another way to change the world

Creating roads out of blocks:

road with blocks hand me my notepad...I thought up another way to change the world

Watching my two girls become the very best of friends:

cardboard box fun hand me my notepad...I thought up another way to change the world

And then I think: I AM changing the world. More importantly, I’m helping to create world-changers. I can see it when I look in their sweet faces, when my 2-year-old shares her things with “the other kids,” when my baby smiles.

Maybe one day, I’ll travel the country with my family with the sole purpose of helping others. Or, I’ll get that PhD that I’ve always dreamed about. Or, I’ll become a billionaire and create innovative solutions to pressing global problems.

But today?

Today, I’ll add to my list of world-changing ideas on my “nurse pad”:

  • Send thank you note to so-and-so.
  • Make dinner for ______.
  • Remember _______’s birthday.
  • Write to the little boy that we sponsor through World Vision.
  • Pray.

17 Intentional Acts of Kindness

il 430xN.69472509 240x300 17 Intentional Acts of KindnessI wish I could become a billionaire and go around the world, obliterating poverty and injustice and disease (and maybe I’ll do that someday).

I wish I could travel the world and hand-deliver food, clothing, and medical supplies to people who are in need (and maybe I’ll do that someday).

I wish I could go to Sierra Leone, Afghanistan, Liberia, and Angola to do research and come up with a plan to decrease the infant mortality rate (and maybe I’ll do that someday).

But since I can’t do that today (or tomorrow – after all, I have a baby to nurse and a 2-year-old to protect and nurture and teach…), I’ll start with something small. I’ll begin with the basics. I’ll give my twopence for the greater good. I’ll take what little I have and I’ll multiply it by one hundred and one.

What’s on my “agenda” this week? Changing the world.

Here are 20 little ideas that anyone can do in their little corner of the world to beautify and better someone else’s life. All of these are ideas you can do with young ones around.

I think I’m going to implement several of these ideas immediately (if they aren’t already a part of our routine):

1. Smile. It’s amazing what an upside-down frown can do to drown out gloom and despair.

2. Ask how someone is and mean it. Don’t just say, “How are you?” out of habit. Say it intently and fully – and stay for an answer.

3. Notice young mothers. Pregnant moms and moms with young children typically live in this crazy kind of wonderful chaos that is completely and utterly exhausting. When you see a mom with young kids, do anything you can to help. Open a door. Offer a seat. Distract her fussy toddler in the check-out line. Carry $5 gift cards to a local coffee shop around in your wallet and hand her one and say, “It looks like you’re a great mom. I wanted to give you this so you can have a break sometime.”

4. Write a letter to an elderly family member or neighbor. Older people are often isolated due to physical ailments. Sending a letter, a postcard, or a photo is sure to energize and encourage the loneliest of hearts.

5. Acknowledge kids. Talk TO kids (“Hi Evan! Did you have fun at swimming lessons?“) instead of ABOUT kids (“What is his name again? Did he like swim lessons?“). Get at their eye level and listen to what they have to say.

6. Sponsor a child. Get involved with a non-profit organization like Compassion International or World Vision to sponsor a child in a needy country. Send letters to him/her. Study his/her country with your kids. Make it a family project.

7. Volunteer-from-home. There’s a lot of talk about working-from-home, but – if you have the means – why not volunteer from home? Offer to design a website or write an article for a non-profit. Stuff envelopes for the food bank. Plan an event for the local birth center. Coordinate a clothes swap and give the remaining apparel to charity. Think of what talents you have and then put them to good use in the community.

8. Write a thank you note. Think of someone who has brightened your life. Your 3rd grade teacher. Your high school basketball coach. Your current boss. Your always-there-for-you best friend. Send a note of appreciation.

9. Adopt a family. Call a local shelter or refugee organization – and ask if it would be possible to adopt a family. Find out the names and ages of each member of the family – and go shopping for clothes, shoes, and groceries.

10. Make a mama a meal. As I mentioned in #4, moms are weary and always needy of more time. Make a mama a meal and she’ll remember it forever. Just call up or send a text that says, “I’m bringing your family dinner tonight (or tomorrow).” Then, show up with lasagna or enchiladas and warm bread and a bottle of wine.

11. Hand deliver cupcakes. Make baked goods (cupcakes or cheesecake or chocolate-covered peanuts), package them up prettily, and deliver them to a friend or neighbor…just because.

12. Make chicken soup. If a friend has a cold or a sinus infection or the flu, make some hot chicken soup, put it in a thermos, and deliver it – along with a few packets of tea, some throat lozenges, and an ice pack.

13. Give a genuine compliment. I often THINK compliments, “Her hair is so pretty!” “He is such a talented musician.” “She is so intelligent.” “He’s such an involved father.” But I want to strive to be better about SAYING those compliments out loud.

14. Send somebody $20 in the mail. Just because. Maybe it’s that single mom who works two jobs or that pastor who is always giving to everybody else or that family with six kids who lives so frugally. Just stick a bill in an envelope, put a stamp on it, and send it.

15. Leave flowers or cookies on somebody’s desk. Your husband’s desk. A co-worker’s desk. A teacher’s desk. Pick someone, bake up something unbelievable, and then give it away.

16. Visit a nursing home with your kids. Bring animal crackers or musical instruments or just yourselves.

17. Model compassion (and talk about it). Our kids are watching us. Are we self-absorbed and materialistic and wasteful? Or are we unselfish and generous and wise stewards of our time and resources? Be who you want your kids to become…and, as you do day-to-day actions, explain why (“Grandma Jane looks like she could use some company. Let’s go talk to her!” or “We could be watching TV, but – instead – we’re baking these cookies for our neighbors. It’s wonderful to think of others, isn’t it?“).

YOUR TURN: What other ideas do you have? What do you and your children do to change the world together?

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